Louise
L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the bestselling author of 20
books, including You Can Heal Your Life, Empowering Women, and Letters
to Louise. Since beginning her career as a Science of Mind minister
in 1981, she has assisted thousands of people in discovering and using
the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth
and self-healing. Louise's works have been translated into 25 different
languages in 33 countries throughout the world.
Dear Louise,
After three major surgeries, my mother has had a massive stroke. She
is nearly paralyzed on her left side, unable to walk on her own. I
have never known my mother to be sick. I have always bragged about
how healthy and energetic she was for a 72-year old, and how lucky
I felt to have her be that way. Although I have been very generous
and good to her most of my life, I feel tremendously guilty about
something I may have said or done 20 years ago. I also feel guilty
when I am not there to help her. I feel so sad that this has happened
to her and that we can no longer have the daily conversations that
I was so used to. I guess I took her for granted. I miss the everyday
things we used to do together. How do I deal with the saddest situation
that I have ever had to experience so far in my life?
E.M., Yonkers, NY
Dear E.M.,
I have great compassion
for you and your mother and what you are both going through. This
is something we all seem to experience, watching a loved one die.
Every person on this planet, including you and your mother, has done
or said several things that we have later regretted. This is a part
of our learning experience. To punish yourself for something done
20 years ago is self-cruelty. Drop the guilt. Let the past go and
love yourself. You can only really help your mother when you come
from self-love. You cannot be with her all the time now. When you
talk to your mother, do so with great love. Tell her how much you
love her, how much you appreciate her, and also tell her about your
past regrets. Apologize and then let the subject drop. Massage her
body gently when you are with her. Let her know it is all right for
her to go, to move into the light, if that is what she needs to do.
Just love her. This is the most you can do. You know, my dear, we
have made illness a socially acceptable way of getting out of leaving
the planet. Please realize that your mother's condition has nothing
to do with you. Keep remembering how wonderful it was that your mother
enjoyed 72 years of excellent health.
Dear
Louise,
I have been studying affirmations and am in a state of confusion because
one part of me wants to pray and affirm, but then other thoughts creep
in, saying, "You are trying to force things; just let God do
the work." So I let go of goals, dreams and ideas, and I think
I never last very long in affirming anything. I give up very quickly
just wanting to be still. Do you have any helping thoughts on this?
K.E., Australia
Dear
K.E.,
How fortunate that you can "listen" to your inner voice
and actually hear the responses! This is the moment in which you are
either enjoying or not enjoying your life. What you are feeling now
is creating your tomorrow. Every thought you have is an affirmation.
You do not have time to waste on negative thinking because that only
creates more of what you say you don't want. If you are doing some
positive affirmations and you are not getting the results you want,
then check to see how often during the day you allow yourself to feel
bad, to be upset. These emotions are probably exactly what is delaying
the manifestation of your affirmations and stopping the flow of your
good. So train yourself to think thoughts that make you feel good.
That way you will always be creating your life out of joy and in joy.
Joy always brings more to be joyous about!
Dear Louise,
I've been seeing so many shows that dwell on all the horrors that
are going to befall us in the future. We're told to stockpile money
and food, etc., and to beware of the anti-Christ. Quite frankly, I
find myself anxious and afraid for days after reading or seeing these
stories. What I want to know is: Why do these people in religious
sectors and the media feel the need to scare others to death with
this material, and what affirmation can I say to myself when I feel
fearful? I know that fear is the absence of faith, and I don't want
to live in fear anymore.
K.B., Allentown, PA
Dear K.B.,
Please do not stress
your consciousness by watching these shows. I think what these alarmists
are doing is quite wicked. Small people often try to be "big"
by predicting disasters. Don't buy into their nonsense. These alarmists
could easily be a bigger threat to society than computers, or any
other disasters predicted. When we fear the worst, we can easily inflict
more serious damage on ourselves, each other, and the economy than
anything the computers could do. Nobody is going to win if we as a
society freak out and turn this event into nightmare. Don't listen
to them. Don't read them. Don't watch them. Don't give them power.
The end of the world is not coming! The old prophecies no longer hold
any truth for us. We have changed our consciousness. It is time to
give out a message of hope. We all need to know and affirm that all
is well in our world. We are moving into a new era of greater good
than we have ever experienced before. I am in the process of putting
together a small book called Millennium 2000: A Positive Approach.
It will be out in July of 1999 at the latest. Remember, you are the
power and authority in your world. Take charge of your thoughts and
create the millennium you want. Affirm: ALL IS WELL. WE MOVE INTO
A GLORIOUS NEW MILLENNIUM. WE ARE SAFE! IT'S ONLY CHANGE!
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