Dear K.S.,
Doctors deal with statistics, and you my dear, are not a statistic. You are a divine child of the universe. Cancer is not catching, but mental patterns are. If your belief system is similar to your mother's, then you need to change your beliefs and attitudes. How can you live your life differently than your mother did? What can you do to nourish yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually so that you will no longer belong to a high-risk group? Among other things, you need to go to a good nutritionist and develop a healthier eating plan. This will take care of your overweight issue and most of your health problems. Read The Breast Cancer Prevention Diet by Dr. Bob Arnot-it is an excellent book.
I often find that cancer is related to long-standing resentments and deep hurt. Women who experience breast cancer are often care-givers who have spent their whole lives nurturing others, but do not nurture themselves. Their identities are often wrapped up in those of their husbands and children. If you see that you have tendencies for nurturing everyone but yourself, begin to work on this now. A good way to tell if you are too nurturing is to plan a day where everything you do is for yourself. As you make your plans, do feelings of guilt come up as a result of only thinking about yourself?
You may want to begin to nurture yourself more and focus on the beautiful woman that is you. Ask yourself what you want and need. Get to understand yourself. Love yourself and support yourself in ways that you have never done before. An affirmation to use is: I LOVE AND NOURISH MYSELF, AND I AM SAFE.

Dear Louise,
I recently moved to the Southwest and have become involved with Science of Mind here. It has come into my life at a time when my quest to better my life has seemed endless. I know that I have made much progress, but now I have a question: How do I know when certain past patterns are healed?
I've met a man who is in prison and has an alcohol problem. I care about him a lot, but I'm not sure this person is right for me. I want someone with a like mind, someone who attends the same church, etc. I think this person wants to begin a new life and become a true and whole person who walks in God's image. Does this mean I picked this person? What do you suggest?
L.F., Phoenix, AZ

Dear L.F.,
You will know that you have healed past patterns when they no longer come into your life or you know how to say "NO" to them if they do show up. You still have a great deal of work to do on yourself. That is your main priority now. You are not here to fix anyone else; you don't need extra burdens. Do you really deserve this kind of relationship? How long will this man be in prison? How do you know that he wouldn't be violent if he drinks again? If this man really wants to begin a new life, then he will do so. I sense a lot of co-dependency within you.
You need to grow up and increase your own self-worth. Take the Science of Mind classes. Release any resentment you may have. Forgive others and work on loving yourself. Go to some Al-Anon meetings, and learn what it means to deal with an alcoholic personality. Give yourself a year before you make any major decisions. At the end of that time, if this man has totally conquered his alcohol problem and has made a great deal of spiritual progress, then you could begin to think about a relationship. Affirm: I ONLY ACCEPT THAT WHICH IS FOR MY HIGHEST GOOD!

Dear Louise,
I am 23 years old, and after reading You Can Heal Your Life several times, I still can't believe that we are responsible for what happens in our lives because there has been no success in my life. How can I heal my life when I feel so bitter, frustrated, and angry
toward the world? How can I forgive people when they continually hurt me? How can I
love myself when there is nothing to love about me? My body doesn't work, my
relationships don't work, my finances don't work, and my life doesn't work, so how can
you expect me to heal my life?
R.D., Australia

Dear R.D.,
You say that people continually hurt you, that your life is dismal, that people constantly abuse you, and that nothing in your life works. Those are powerful affirmations that you
are making to the Universe. If those are your beliefs about yourself, that is what you will create in your life. You say you have read the book several times. However, I do not believe you have done the exercises. If you had, your life would be changing for the better. Please, go through the book page by page and DO ALL THE EXERCISES!
I realize that you have had a difficult childhood, so it is very important that you learn to forgive. It is the only way you can dissolve all the bitterness and resentment. When you do let go, your life will really open up in miraculous ways.
Accept yourself as you are. Look into the mirror morning and night and just say, "I LOVE YOU, I REALLY LOVE YOU." There is a beautiful child in there who is worth loving!

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