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A Conversation with Lynn

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  Just what is it we're doing to attract or deflect wealth, relationships, health or anything else in life? The author of Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting, shares the deceptively simple basics of the secret of our lives.

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You can't be focusing on what you don't want and expect to get what you do want. As a matter of fact, that's impossible.

The Monthly Aspectarian: Lynn, I usually like to start an interview by asking people to give us a thumbnail of their stories.

Lynn Grabhorn: I've been in the mortgage brokerage business for the last 22 years. I've been on a deep spiritual path for the last 13 or 14 years, but my life was not working. Everybody has their own thing, some with relationships, some with health; with me, it was income. It just wasn't working, and it was beginning to tick me off. Here I am, this grand spiritual student and learner, but it wasn't coming together. Then I ran across these teachings which basically are nothing more than a condensation of the same teachings that the Masters have been giving us for years. I listened to them and knew within five minutes that I had found the secret I'd been looking for.

Basically, it's the secret of life. Within 18 months of beginning to transcribe notes and work on my book, my income increased 830%. Not too shabby! I was able to get out of the negative vibrations that were causing me to stay locked in such a state of lack. It's our emotions that cause empty bank accounts and relationships and car accidents, and conversely, they cause great relationships and full bank accounts. I had never gotten that message.

TMA: As I read the book, it seems to me that in a sense, this is the missing key.

LG: It is the missing key. The teachers have been telling us this, but sort of around the bush. No one has ever really come in and really just clicked on it. When I got these teachings, I instantly got the message that we get what we focus on. Focus on an empty bank with emotion -- hello, you're going to get a bigger empty bank account and more bills.

TMA: In our culture, we tend to prize mental development and in recent decades, we've prized physical development and almost completely neglect the emotional level. A person can be a brilliant teacher or scientist or surgeon and still be a child emotionally -- and still be lauded.

LG: By the same token, Guy, we've come across the era of "let's get in touch with our feelings, and fear." Heavens, that's not what I'm talking about! Let's get in touch with our feelings about how awful our parents were and how terrible our childhood was. No, no, no!

TMA: That's focusing on the negative.

LG: That's absolutely focusing on the negative. What we put out in emotion goes out in actual waves. Because we get what we focus on, we're going to get, one way or the other, more of exactly the same thing. This is nothing more than pure physics: Like frequencies attract. Negative emotions cause very low frequencies like the low tone on a violin or a piano. High, positive frequencies which feel good, like joy and appreciation and excitement and that kind of thing, feel good because they're closer to our source, where our source vibrates. Positive feelings cause us to vibrate at a much higher frequency and that's what's going to come.

You can't be focusing on what you don't want and expect to get what you do want. As a matter of fact, that's impossible.

TMA: There are all these books on creative visualization. Think and Grow Rich -- how many titles are there along those lines.

LG: Why do you suppose those titles keep on coming out? It only works to a degree. Think and Grow Rich was such a big thing of its day because there were those people -- and I do know one, who because of Think and Grow Rich was able to change his world. But why was he? Because he got excited. Because he changed his vibration. Because he changed his frequency. He got into it. He dove in the water and he was thrilled and passionate and enthusiastic. Those are very high frequency vibrations; therefore, what he was putting out he got back. Just take any kind of creative visualization and you can visualize from here to kingdom come, and there ain't nuthin' that's going to happen unless you get some oomph behind it.

TMA: The mental vibrations are at a higher rate than the emotional.. The emotional.vibrations are closer to the physical.

LG: Let's not call them mental vibrations, because mental vibrations accomplish very little without something behind it. Let's say we have middle C on the piano. That's right smack in the middle. Anything above that would be a feeling, anything below that is pure physical and emotion. Mild concern is just fear, a negative emotion. How do we get higher than that? By taking our focus off of the stuff that makes us feel lousy and getting our focus on something that makes us feel a little bit better. Highly simplistic; not always easy.

TMA: Someone close to me recently bought a brand new car and for about a two week period just kept feeling afraid that she was going to have an accident. "Don't let me have an accident, don't let me have an accident." 300 miles on it and -- smooshed.

LG: I've heard that so many times, Guy. People in my seminars tell me the same thing. Like frequencies attract; therefore, that level of fear is going to attract something. Now it may not attract something with the car. It may attract a broken toe. But if it's a heavy, heavy focus mixed with that car, then you betcha, that car's going to end up with a major hit.

TMA: This person had been at a book signing a few weeks earlier, and a lady walked up to her and said, "You need to read this book!" and handed her the title to your book. She put it in her pocket and forgot about it. A couple of days after the accident, she was in a bookstore and the book just kind of fell off the shelf. She picked it up and read it, and said to me, "I practiced this accident for two weeks before it happened."

LG: (laughs) What a perfect way to put it! She practiced the accident! If you ever see her again, tell her I'm stealing the line.

TMA: Well, she sat me down and said, "Okay, now you've got to read this book." I started reading it and ordered seven copies for the rest of my office

LG: I'm a bottom line person. You know, let's skip all the fluff; let's get to the meat of this thing. Once I heard that very first tape, I knew that I had found the meat but I also knew I had to find a way to put it in totally earthy, everyday language for everyone to understand.

Let's get down to the basics. What are the steps? I'm looking at my empty bank account, I'm feeling that knot in my gut, how do I get out of it? I stop focusing on my empty bank account and go and pet my dog. I go and walk barefoot in the grass. I do anything to make me feel better. Anything to make me feel just a little bit better. That will change my vibrations and that will get my focus off of that thing that I don't want to focus on anymore. Appreciation, for instance -- and I'm talking about appreciation of even some little ant walking across the floor. Or appreciation of a piece of dust. This is something that we must learn, that we need to practice doing. We need to practice flowing an entirely different kind of energy. I'm looking right now at a red felt-tip pen and I can just appreciate and love that little sucker all to pieces, and that's changing my vibrations. And as I change my vibrations over this, it will change my vibrations over everything. If we do this a little bit every day -- then you're automatically changing your vibrations and magic starts to happen in your life. Magic!

TMA: I think one of the most important things people need to learn that you have in your book, is to stop focusing on what you don't want and start focusing on what you do want. That is so big.

LG: That's huge. Frankly, it's so simple, but it certainly isn't all that easy because we've been trained not to want. That's a biggie. What do you mean, "want"? Isn't that selfish? Oh yes, it is. But as you focus on your wants and you get into the thrill of having that want, whether it's a relationship or more spirituality or a hundred thousand bucks in the bank, whatever it is, as you're focusing on that and changing your vibrations, there is an automatic change that happens in people around you. You are changing your vibrations and the people will around you will benefit too, or else they'll leave your life. So, is it selfish? You bet.

TMA: But in a very positive sense.

LG: It's high time we learned to get into that kind of selfishness that benefits the world. It's like when we look at the television and we see a huge earthquake or tornado and it's killed umpteen hundred people and we get into "Oh, isn't that awful, isn't that terrible!" -- if we could send those folks the energy of "Look, it's going to be alright, it's going to be alright. The more we focus on "ain't it awful," the worse their situation is going to get -- as well as our own.

The best example on a personal level is that spiffy little red car coming down the freeway. You see that and it's exactly the convertible you've wanted for years. You look at that car zooming down the freeway, and what's your first thought?

TMA: "I wish I could have that."

LG: Yes, or "I'll never be able to afford that." And of course, it'll never come. It'll never happen. And people say, "What are you talking about, 'What I focus on is what I get.' I've been focusing on money all my life and I don't have any. I've been focusing on that red car for five years and I don't have it."

TMA: What they've been focusing on is the fact that they don't have it.

LG: Absolutely. That just holds it away and makes it absolutely certain that there's no way they're going to get it.

TMA: Now when a person is faced with a reality: say the cash flow is low. What you would say is to jumpstart the positive emotions and feel how wonderful it feels to have all the money you need.

LG: By and large that's really tough. The first part of what you said is right: get your focus off of that negative thing -- for instance that you're in a short cash flow. Then, for a couple of weeks, take your focus off of it and find a way to feel a little bit better. After a week or two of doing that . . . let's get into what I call scripting. Not into just telling the story of what it will be like when you have the money, but feeling the story, getting into actually being the participant. "Oh golly, isn't it grand that I got that refund from the oil company yesterday! Granted, it was only $75, but wow, I can pay a bunch of bills with that! Isn't it great how that came!" You are living it, you are experiencing it. You're not just saying, "I got a check for $75 from the oil company." That will get you nothing. But you are experiencing the thrill of the actual moment of having a little bit more money -- not a lot maybe, to start with, because you won't believe it. You've got to be able to believe it. Get your emotions behind it and get into that story like you are living every single solitary second of it, and that's what will bring it to you.

TMA: Feeling the gratitude is important, I think.

LG: Yes, feeling gratitude, and how about just plain old excitement! How about "Hot damn, I just got a check for 75 bucks! That is just fantastic!" That's the kind of scripting I'm talking about.

TMA: Instead of "Where am I going to get the other $125 I need."

LG: Or instead of walking around saying, "Oh, I'm so grateful I just got a check for $75 . . . " Let's get into the real earthy, everyday stuff. "It's fantastic that I got that and I did it just by changing my focus!" That's what you are imagining. You are pretending as if, but that's what will do it.

TMA: I think we should point out again that this isn't just about money, it's about whatever the person perceives a lack of in life.

LG: Anything at all. If it's a relationship, health . . . however, whatever they want their life to be. Health is a tough one but I have a section on that in the book. Norman Cousins laughed himself out of cancer, you know; it's certainly possible to do. When we're given a diagnosis by the doctor that we didn't know we had, we focus on it. We focus on a "don't want." I have several steps in the book as to how to get out of that. I don't think any of this is particularly easy but it's enormously simple. It's not easy because it takes daily practice.

TMA: Many people are almost divorced from their feelings and have never paid any attention to them.

LG: They don't know how to turn happy on. But it's absolutely possible.

TMA: It's possible and necessary. I've been a proponent of the global meditations, and I really do believe that they've had a tremendous effect.

LG: I do too.

TMA: If we add this emotional element, it'll change things exponentially.

LG: It would change the weather patterns, it would fill in the ozone hole, it would change the consciousness, it would raise the frequency of mankind.

TMA: I'm fond of saying the cold war didn't end because our system was better than the Soviet's. And it didn't end because we spent more than they did. Both of those things may be true, but the cold war ended because mass consciousness rose up and struck down nuclear annihilation. And that's been almost completely mental.

LG: Not entirely. They were fighting with "I don't want a nuclear war, I'm afraid of a nuclear war" but the odds that won out were the "Wouldn't it feel great to be able to be in peace?" and that's what finally won out.

TMA: What have we not talked about that we should have? I want to get everything in that you want our readers to be aware of.

LG: The worse we feel, the worse things get; the better we feel, the better things get. Just plain old simplistics. All we're doing here is learning to raise our frequencies. You flow negative out, you're going to get negative back, both personally and worldwide. You were talking about happiness. We need to learn to feel the vibration of happiness, and that can be nothing more than going out and leaning up against a tree. What we are feeling and what we are getting are always, always the vibrational match. (chuckles) Like your gal who practiced her accident for two weeks before she had it.

How we feel is how we vibrate, and how we vibrate equals how we attract. You just have to be aware of how you're feeling in the moment. If you're feeling a bit down, you're in a problem area and that's what you need to change. It's the flowing of our energy that makes things happen.

Lynn Grabhorn is the author of Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting and Beyond the Twelve Steps, along with a multimedia program, Life Course 101. These have received high international acclaim. If you would like a complete description of Lynn's workshops and how to arrange for them, please write to Lynn Grabhorn, PMB 244, 800 Sleater-Kinney Road S.E., Lacey, Washington 98503.