Creating a Holy and Loving Relationship - by Robert Ibrahim Jaffe, M.D.

..A holy and loving relationship, a divine relationship, is one that has been blessed by God and is a vehicle for the complete merging, spiritual evolvement and ascension of both partners. It is a deep bonding of love and commitment that is the foundation for the peace that will extend to our families, to others and to the world.

Divine relationship begins by inviting God into it. Think of a relationship as a drop that has been separated from the ocean of love from which it originated. The relationship must be centered in and revolve around the divine light of the holiness of God. This purity of light, radiating from God, must become the focal point of the love within the relationship.

Human love is about "What can I get out of you or the relationship?" Divine love is the opposite. It's about "What can I give to you? What do you need, my love?" This is a whole different way of relating to each other.

To create such a relationship, couples must surrender to each other. As each partner learns how to give completely to the other, holding nothing back, the heart begins to glow like a flame. When you surrender to your beloved, not only do they become your best friend, they are also the doorway for you to reach God.

The first challenge of such a relationship is learning containment, which is the ability to hold the other in love regardless of the state they are in. As two people get to know each other, they discover qualities about the other that they don't like. When one of them is expressing such a quality and the other fails to transcend the situation and contain them in unconditional love, pain occurs.

Most teachings about relationship focus on adjusting personalities so that the partners can relate to each other and get along. But when two hearts come together in the unity of a divine relationship, they enter each other and move through each other to reach God realization. At that point, there will be such a deep and beautiful surrender between them that most, if not all, of the personality issues will cease to be relevant. Working on the challenges of relationship on a personality level can definitely produce positive results, but deepening your surrender to each other and to God can melt the pain and restore harmony in the relationship more quickly and effectively.

Robert Ibrahim Jaffe, M.D. is the founder of the Jaffe Institute of Spiritual and Medical Healing. He is a licensed medical doctor and master Sufi teacher. His special gift is showing people how to heal their hearts, bodies and spirits through the Essence of Divine Love. He will be coming to Chicago to lead "Creating a Holy & Loving Relationship" at the Sheraton Northshore Hotel, Aug 31-Sept 3. Call (800) 238-3060 for information.

The seminar is designed to teach both individuals and couples how to live in the inner heart, the place of deep mercy, compassion, and unconditional love. It is only when we do this that we can see the other for who they truly are and live in the blessing of the divine love.