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Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the bestselling author of 27 books, including You Can Heal Your Life, Empowering Women, and Inner Wisdom. Since beginning her career as a Science of Mind minister in 1981, she has assisted thousands of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. Louise's works have been translated into 25 different languages in 33 countries throughout the world.

Dear Louise,
I'd like to go back to school to finish my degree, but here's my problem. Whenever I'm in a place such as a school, church, or a meeting room at work, I get a feeling that I want to escape. This makes it very hard for me to concentrate and wears me out physically and emotionally. I have an extremely nervous stomach and sometimes have to leave to use the rest room.

I've tried hypnosis, diet changes, yoga, and deep breathing, all of which help somewhat. But the mental preparation I have to do wears me out. I'm embarrassed and frustrated. Can you help?

-- A.S.,Washington DC

Dear A.S.,
It sounds like something happened in your early school days that humiliated you, and the memory remains in your stomach. You need to forgive and let that go. Begin to talk to yourself in this way: I am no longer a little girl. Those past events have no power over me. I forgive everyone involved. I forgive myself, and I let it go. I am a grownup adult, and I refuse to punish myself anymore for something that happened so long ago. I'm in charge of my feelings. I allow myself to be comfortable where I am. I choose to feel good. I deserve a good life. I choose thoughts that make my feel happy. I love Life, and Life loves me.

A month of thinking like this will solve all your problems. The better you can allow yourself to feel, the quicker you'll heal. Lighten up, and have fun doing this!

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Dear Louise,
I'm learning to listen to my inner voice and comfort my inner child, and I want to thank you for helping me with that. I'm glad I discovered your books when I did. Once I realized I didn't have to surround myself with negativity, I realized I was alone. I usually love my alone time, but I noticed it's becoming a little too lonely.

If I keep thinking that my future is more promising than my present life, I might find that I'm just as lonely in my new home (I'm moving soon). If ever I need advice, I speak to my inner advisor. That's great for now but I can't just talk to myself when I feel like having a conversation with someone. I might go a little nutty after a while. I'm not to sure what to do.

--B.N., Rural Hall, NC

Dear B.N.,
You're doing fine. Just guide your thoughts a bit more in a positive direction. Affirm: I love my life. I love myself. I awaken each morning excited about this new day. I love today, and I look forward to tomorrow, which will be even better. I am healthy, comfortable financially, and attracting wonderful new friends. My life is filled with delightful adventures. I choose thoughts that make me feel good. I am open and receptive to all the good Life has to offer. All is well, and I am safe.

Blessings on your new move. A glorious life awaits you!

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Dear Louise,
I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man. He's an Aquarian and I'm a Cancer. For two years we've lived together (after meeting on the Internet and having a whirlwind love affair, culminating with my relocation from the West to the East coast). But I have a disturbing problem.

My boyfriend stares at beautiful women wherever we go. I also found him looking at pornographic Internet sites during our first year together, which has made me jealous and resentful. I have a healthy and beautiful body, and so does he, and we're attracted to each other. Why, then, the need to look elsewhere for stimulation? I've never been the jealous type until now. It's very frustrating.

--R.J., Miami, FL

Dear R.J.,
People live lives very differently today. Twenty years ago you wouldn't have even had an Internet to meet on. I personally think it's silly to be jealous of a partner who appreciates beauty in the opposite sex. Do you refuse to look at an attractive man? Life and beauty of all sorts--flowers, sunsets, and even people--are meant to be appreciated and enjoyed. Don't waste your thoughts over that; you'll only make yourself miserable.

And yes, part of this could be that you're a Cancer, a sign that loves the home and fidelity, and he's an Aquarian, which means that he feels he belongs to the world. However, I think there may be more going on. Your circumstances may be okay; however there's a growing trend for young girls to meet sleazy men on the Internet and meet untimely ends.

You mention his cyber sex chats. Is that still going on, or has it stopped? If you really believe that he's faithful, then why are you upset? Could it be that you're jealous, or is your inner wisdom talking to you? If you feel it's the latter, then I strongly recommend that you make an appointment with a Religious Science church practitioner in your area for more support.

They're trained to assist you in knowing the truth and manifesting what it is you want to experience.

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