Many of us believe we co-create our lives by channeling the unlimited potential of the universe through our thoughts and desires into the manifest realm. We know in our hearts that we are capable of living huge, exciting, meaningful lives. The very idea of this makes us feel wistful and empowered. Yet many of our lives are not as technicolored as we’d like. We hold on to the dream of more while making due with much less. Is there a flaw in our thinking, are we undeserving, is it just not time yet? What’s the deal?

I’m not qualified or able to reveal the secrets of the universe, but I will give you this to think about. While we do have access to unlimited creative energy, we close ourselves off from much of what we could have and we waste much of what we do have on stuff that just isn’t worthy of us. With this year coming to a close and the New Year beginning, maybe we can decide to change this.

One of the biggest ways we choke our energy is through fear. We’re afraid of the dumbest things. We fear what others think of us, of making fools of ourselves. We fear the future because we don’t know what it will bring. We fear revealing our true selves, of being unlovable, of growing old. Through these fears we quite often bring about or insure that which we’re afraid of. As we go through this time of closing off the year, let’s examine our fears. Let’s see which are founded and which are not. The unfounded ones we can just let go. The others may require that some change or accommodation be made.

Another way we stifle the flow is by swimming in the pool of regret. There is not one among us who hasn’t made a choice that we’ve come to regret. Maybe we’ve hurt someone, missed an opportunity, or messed up an opportunity that came our way. Funny thing about the past—it’s gone. It can’t be changed. But we have a future to look forward to and looking back will seriously interfere with making the most of it. We’re often willing to forgive or overlook the mistakes of others. Often, too, a misstep leads to a series of events that, when looked back on, seems more like a gift than a mistake. Let’s take a good look at the things we’re holding on to. Some we can just let go, some we will be able to forgive, and others we may have to see in a new light and begin to appreciate.

All of us know people to whom life seems to just hand over the good stuff. Their big exciting lives make ours look puny and dim. They’ve always just closed some deal, or moved to a new house, or returned from some great trip. It’s hard to not be a little envious. Sometimes we feel resentful. We must realize that we can have everything they have and more, and that our feelings of resentment keep us from having it. First off, they may not be nearly as happy as we think they are; everyone has challenges to cope with. Second, they are just better at opening to the flow that is available to all of us right now. Let’s let go of ill feelings for the success of others and get back to having more of our own.

Marianne Williamson, in her book Return to Love says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.” This is probably our biggest flow choker. We walk around in our smaller than necessary lives, intuitively knowing we are meant for more, blaming everyone and everything under the sun except ourselves, frustrated by the gap between what we are and what we know we could be. Let’s go forward with this in mind and begin living the lives we were meant to live. Let’s give some thought, as this year closes, to where we are and where we know we can be. Let’s remember 2007 as the turning point in our lives, the year we went from OK to completely fabulous.

We at The Monthly Aspectarian wish you a wonder filled holiday season. Enjoy all it has to offer, remembering now and then to breath and take it easy.